Sunday, September 2, 2012

Not Intended for the Naive


"I'm not sure I understand."
Eli smiled. "You will, but it will take time. You've got a lot of marks. For now, just come to see me every day and let me remind you how much I care."
Punchinello did not stop, but in his heart he thought, I think he really means it. And when he did, a dot fell to the ground.
-You Are Special by Max Lucado


This past year, I have had multiple experiences which helped me to distinguish between a set of ideals that are prevalent topics in today's society ie: Naivete and Virtue. Many individuals are repetitively belittled for being naive because they will or won't participate in certain activities. Such belittling can be the source of many wounded or angry feelings. Lately I have been wondering why? Why do such accusations leave such a bitter taste in our mouths? In reality, each of us is imperfect and because we are so, it is very possible that we do, in some situations, act out of naivete. If that is the case, it is essential that we recognize our ignorance and correct ourselves. However, "Naive" is a powerful label that we must use with utmost caution. It is imperative that we do not make the regrettable mistake of misusing that title, especially if the description is implemented in the degradation of another ideal infinitely more powerful, an ideal such as Virtue.
Unlike Naivete, Virtue is not the act of making a blind leap in the dark. It is an open-eyed, conscious decision to step towards the light. Virtue is having full comprehension of Evil and its enticements and choosing Goodness instead.  Some would paint Virtue and Naivete on the same plane but they are not; Virtue acts out of strength; Naivete acts not at all.  Satan would have us be naive; God would have us be pure. Similarly, many would have us believe that purity and innocence are identical, that one cannot be pure without first being innocent. I passionately disagree. Only consider; once we have made a mistake, it is impossible to be made innocent. However, even the darkest metal can be made pure.
I want to clarify that I am not fabricating a clever cop-out. True, it is near impossible to be innocent, but it is painful to be pure. Purity entails a sense of purging, of refining. There is a power and strength in purity and virtue that is not found in innocence or naivete. Some would argue that one cannot really understand "the dark side" until she has experienced it for herself. To those challengers, I would assert that the best way to know the real power of evil is by resisting it. Giving in is easy - you never experience the full force of temptation. But consistently rejecting the powerful enticings of opposition? that is real strength. That is real understanding.
Neither am I deprecating innocence. In fact, I believe that between innocence and purity, innocence is preferable; better to not make an error then to fix one. No, there is no problem with innocence. There is however, a problem with ignorance. Agency is a powerful weapon and can be extremely dangerous in the hands of someone who does not know which way to wield it. In the end, I guess that is what this all comes down to, why we are so emotionally affected by the labeling. It is only reasonable to conclude that we (both those who label and those who are labeled "naive") are defending what we have been fighting to defend for eons. We are defending our ability to act for ourselves and not to be acted upon, we are defending our agency. This is the power that ennobles humankind, that distinguishes man from every other form of life on this planet, that designates us as Children of God. 
In the midst of all of the hurtful labeling, we are aware of the significance of the label. God himself has said that a man cannot be saved in ignorance (D&C 131:6). If we are truly naive, we are like a car without a steering wheel: fueled with energy but lacking the resources necessary to provide direction. In contrast, if we are aware of our circumstances, WE CAN CHOOSE FOR OURSELVES. Not simply that, but those who understand Truth can virtuously choose Goodness. Odds are we will make mistakes, but those who have lost their innocence can choose purity. Yes, it will be painful, but with the stakes so high, would we really choose to sit in the immobilizing damnation of ignorance and naivete? For those who have consciously chosen to be virtuous, God awaits with a reward of exaltation, a reward that was never intended for the naive.

4 comments:

  1. Once again this blog has brought both introspection and insight. This is something I will reflect upon and reread for a while. There is little I read that leaves this type of impact on me. Gratefully and with all my love, Mom

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  2. Kathryn,

    Your insights continues to amaze and bless me. This comment "Some would argue that one cannot really understand "the dark side" until she has experienced it for herself. To those challengers, I would assert that the best way to know the real power of evil is by resisting it. Giving in is easy - you never experience the full force of temptation." provides such an opportunity for personal reflect and growth.

    You are special. Love Dad

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  3. I stumbled upon your blog and decided to read. There are some things you wrote I disagree with: "There is a power and strength in purity and virtue that is not found in innocence or naivete. Some would argue that one cannot really understand "the dark side" until she has experienced it for herself. To those challengers I would assert that the best way to know the real power of evil is by resisting it. Giving in is easy - you never experience the full force of temptation. But consistently rejecting the powerful enticings of opposition? that is real strength. That is real understanding." First off I’m not sure what your definition of innocence is, but I think there’s power in innocence too. When we slip up, then right our wrongs and repent we are declared innocent and pure because of Christ. Innocence and purity is declared of those who accept Christ's atonement and forgiveness. Next, you claim to truly know and understand the real power of evil you must resist it. First of all, I agree that one doesn’t have to give in to sin to understand the consequences and unhappiness it brings into one's life, but to say someone who has not committed a certain sin understands the temptations and power of evil better than someone who has committed that sin is not true. Think about it like this: Say a good Christian girl gets in trouble by committing sexual sin with her boyfriend. The results of this is she gets pregnant, her family disowns her, and her boyfriend wants nothing to do with the child so he leaves her. She stops attending church because of the judgment she feels and she thinks it will make things easier. She strongly feels the consequences of her actions. She is worn and lonely. After a while she realizes she wants God back in her life. She decides to meet with her old youth pastor. She tells him everything. He looks her in the eye and humbly tells her "I am no better than you are and neither is anyone else. Christ died for you so that you can return to Him. God has already forgiven you, He forgave you a long time ago and He would love to have a more personal close relationship with you." She expresses she wants to attend church and have a personal relationship with God. As time goes by she feels closer to God, things begin to mend with her family and she is a happier person than she’s ever been and understands God better than ever. She turns her life over to Jesus to shape and mold her into the person He wants her to be. According to your statement you say someone who hasn't gone through that sin understands the evil or consequences much better than she does because they resisted in the first place. I disagree I would say both can understand the consequences and evil of the sin the difference is one has personally felt the consequences and the other hasn't. Again I’m not saying you have to commit the sin in order to know the evil and consequences involved. I’m saying it is not correct to say the one who didn't commit the sin understands the power of evil better than the one who did commit the sin they both understand.

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  4. Another thing you mentioned was a person who doesn’t give in to temptation experiences the full force of temptation while the one who gave in doesn't ever feel the full force of temptation, I disagree. Another example, take a person who has never stolen anything in their life and committed not to steal (person1) and a person who one day didn't have enough money to purchase an item but told himself that stealing one time wouldn't harm anyone (person2). Now think about it, if both person 1 and 2 were in a situation again where they didn't have enough money to pay for something both may feel a temptation, but who is going to feel a stronger force of temptation? I would say person 2 because once you have done something one time it’s harder to resist the temptation to do it again. The stronger force of temptation is on the person who has committed the sin. It is not right to say one only "experiences the full force of temptation" when they never commit the sin. I hope you understand what I’m to explain.

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